The Nervous System Is the Real Matchmaker
Your body knows before your mind does.
We like to believe we're rational creatures. We tell ourselves that logic runs the show — that we can reason our way into or out of anything.
But the truth is, your nervous system gets the first and final vote.
It’s the quiet radar scanning for safety before your brain has time to make excuses.
You know the moment:
A text comes in, and your body tenses.
Someone enters the room, and your stomach drops.
Your shoulders rise. Your breath shortens.
Your body, not your mind, registered something real.
In love, we often override these signals.
I once dated someone who made my stomach sink before every date.
I told myself it was butterflies. I blamed it on anxiety.
I tried to think my way into safety. But my body already knew.
Love is not supposed to feel like survival.
When you override your nervous system, you override the truth.
When you listen to your nervous system, you learn who feels like peace.
Safe love is not the absence of excitement.
It’s the absence of fear.
More soon,
Margot